Home/Practice Areas/Family Law/Custody agreements

Custody agreements

Texas does not use the word custody. It splits the question into who decides, and who has the child when — and the difference matters more than the label.

Family Law

Conservatorship, possession and access: three separate questions.

Conservatorship is about decision-making rights and duties — education, medical treatment, psychiatric care, the child's primary residence. Possession and access is the schedule. Support is a third question that follows from the first two. Courts start from a presumption that parents should be joint managing conservators, which is a presumption about rights, not about equal time.

What courts actually weigh

  • The child's emotional and physical needs now and in the future, and any danger to them.
  • Each parent's ability and willingness to meet those needs, including who has been doing the day-to-day work.
  • Stability of home and school, and the practical distance between the two households.
  • Each parent's willingness to support the child's relationship with the other parent — courts notice interference, and it backfires.
  • A child's own preference, which a judge may hear in chambers once the child is twelve or older, weighed alongside everything else rather than treated as the decision.
  • Any history of family violence, substance misuse or neglect, which changes the analysis entirely.

The schedule is where these orders succeed or fail

Texas has a standard possession order that most cases start from, with an expanded version many parents elect. It works well for some families and poorly for others — shift workers, offshore rotations, long commutes, infants and teenagers with their own schedules all need something drafted for them. Ambiguity about pick-up times, holidays, summer notice deadlines and who travels is what produces enforcement fights two years later.

Related matters

Changing an order later

Orders can be modified when circumstances have materially and substantially changed — a relocation, a new work schedule, a change in the child's needs, or conduct that makes the current arrangement unworkable. Until it is modified, the existing order is enforceable exactly as written, whatever the parents have been doing informally.

Common questions

Does Texas use the word custody?

Not really. It separates conservatorship — the rights and duties — from possession and access, which is the schedule.

What does the court actually consider?

The child's best interest: their needs, each parent's ability to meet them, stability, and each parent's willingness to support the child's relationship with the other.

Can my child choose which parent to live with?

A judge may hear an older child's preference in chambers and weigh it alongside everything else. It is a factor, not the decision.

Can we agree on our own schedule?

Yes, and agreed orders are usually better ones. It still has to be drafted precisely, because your written version is what governs on a bad day.

Does the standard schedule suit everyone?

No. Shift workers, offshore rotations, long distances, infants and teenagers frequently need something drafted for them rather than the default.

The other parent is not returning our child on time.

Document it, keep exchanges civil and in writing, and bring us the pattern. Enforcement works far better with a record than with a complaint.

Can I stop visits if support is not being paid?

No. Possession and support are independent obligations, and withholding one to punish the other creates a second problem for you.

Can a custody order be changed?

Yes, where circumstances have materially and substantially changed. Until it is changed, the existing order governs whatever the parents have been doing informally.

What if we were never married?

The same framework applies through a suit affecting the parent-child relationship, with paternity established where it has not been already.

What if the other parent is unsafe?

That changes the analysis entirely, and there are protective mechanisms including supervised possession. Raise it immediately rather than at trial.

Free Consultation

Tell us what happened. We will tell you where you stand.

Available 24/7 · Office hours Monday to Friday, 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM